Anger and lashing out

It is the beginning of the week and all the headlines have been since yesterday is about Will Smith and the Oscars and I never really watch award shows, couple of my friends love them and watch every single one but not me. 

I do daydream about them, because my ambition is to have one of my books written to be made into a TV show, and picture myself winning a BAFTA or a Best Comedy Awards, but in terms of watching I like snippets, but not watching the whole thing. 

Anger is the strange thing, and for me it shows how when it is a celebrity that we forget they have feelings and they are still human beings. I think it reminds us about the times we live in now. We have to be so careful as to what to say, but that everyone should be allowed to show their anger. I don't condone to hitting someone, I used to do that as a kid. Yet as kid if someone hit me I'd hit them back. 

I would get into fights, but did they ever make a different?

It depends on who it was. I was a bullied where I lived as a kid in my neighbourhood and at school. 

They could be tough times and it did effect me. I have a book that I bought a long time ago about anger. With me I just explode that is why I don't like getting angry. I find it can take over your entire body. It can raise a lot of guilt. It can stir hidden feelings and make you shout rather than talking it through. 

When I have been angry I would often try and take myself out of the situation but that is not always possible. and, 

so, should you just sit and take it when someone is making fun of you, and you are offended by it? 

I have been picked on when I went to a comedy store in London, but I loved it and it was such good fun, that I never minded. 

However it can be in the way someone has spoken to you. I have often been in a situation where someone has spoken at me. This can feel like a personal attack. So asks the question, 

if things get super personal should you shout and scream?

It can be hard not to, as you feel the anger rising and rising. Boundaries do need to be set, and if you don't speak up, then that person won't know that they have done wrong, and when I was a kid and me and brother argued it would be all day sometimes, and run our parents down because of that, so I would could, go into my nans bathroom for example, and sit in the bath. 

So if you can find a spot where you can have some quiet then do it. 

Pull them over and talk to them in a quiet place to let them know that they have been out of order, rather than shouting. I know easier said then done, 

but do you want to argue for ever? 

It it is getting too much and you feel on breaking point?  

then situation needs to be sorted out. 

As a parent my son can often lash out. I do have to put this under control as he needs to know that it isn't correct way to behave, but just talk. I will meet him eye level and talk to him and go over why he is kicking off and see how we can work together to stop him having those feelings, and sort it out before he lashes out. 

Sorry is okay but if the person says this and does it again, then it's not sorry, it is an excuse for them to take over your own wellbeing. Boundaries needs to be set, and so make it clear that they are getting to you and they either stop or you will leave them to it and only will I talk once my son for example has continued on being misbehaving and being rude. 

You have to definitely as children can test our patience nip their anger in the bud, but still allow then to express themselves. 

So, what do you think? I'd love to hear from you. Please leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

A hard mothers day and supporting those in Ukraine

It is another end of the week and so hadn't written much on this blog site, and so it is Friday again and will be spending time with my son later after he has finished school, and soon it is the last week until Easter. Now it is Sunday and so a bit late to be sending this out. That is a life of a mother and a writer it can mean being late sometimes with posts, but I want to at least send another one out before the new week begins.

HAPPY MOTHERS DAYS TO YOU ALL x

I always celebrate this occasions and in terms of today, I took this morning easy as my son wakes up and remembers to give me his gift to me. If you'd like to read my blogs on parenting the please check the link below:

https://theparentingadventurrestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

I also been working on my book and trying to get it finished. I haven't really done many videos but going to put them on hold because its just been very busy and but more videos will be coming, once I have finished more important projects.

If you'd like to check out my channel see link here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

I am still continuing my email challenge and so it is not a long break as I will begin to film again next week before the Easter Holiday arises as I should be working at a School Holiday Club, I will film more days of my life and then back to the other videos I like to do, when the Easter Holidays are over. 

Then there will be my "2022 Project" like I did last year which will be monthly project in May. I will be making videos and blogs, with printables dedicated to this project which is all about Life Coaching and getting a even better year and life than before. 

As I write that it makes me think about those fleeing and stuck in Ukraine, and how guilty I feel, as its hope they can get away to safety and feel I would like to do more to help. War is what it stands for devastation. 

I not sure if they celebrate mothers day or Easter in Ukraine, but if you do then I hope you have a way of celebrating, and feel so strong as a parent, that in these types of events we should all come together to support those in hardship right now.

More blogs will be posted this week coming and wish you all a good weekend and have a chilled out and relaxed day.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

 

End of the week/taking on challenges

It is now the start of the weekend, Friday and I am watching Comic Relief, and I feel so old when I remember when it first started back in the 80's. I loved that it went on through the night and it was full entertainment, and seeing the way it is helping so many people, in other countries aswell as Britain, I will always support the cause. 

I have an ambition to walk the entire length of Britain to raise money for such causes and so, really want to do this now, and so going to plan to do this to make a difference. Not sure when, but is a challenge I have always wanted to do, and I believe in following your goals and ambitions, since a kid, and go for it.

Challenges are good for the soul, the heart, lungs and brain. It helps you see what your capabilities are, and so set up some, and don't have to be extreme, but something that is going to give best set of endorphins ever. 

My challenge for myself this month, which is to clear out my Google accounts, and enjoyed setting this challenge, but started well, then his a stop, due to maintenance and other errands but still getting bits done to get it completed. This is just one account so going to set a challenge myself another time to clear my other accounts. I have many, and I bet you are asking why? And I wish I had a response, but I don't, its been deciding on names of my different blogs and so yes, still quite a bit to go. 

I didn't post that many videos this week and so going to try my best to post more up, on all three of my channel see links below:

- Typicallondongirl

- Astylewayofliving

- carrieseducationalyoutubechannel

I loved dong my fundraising walks and runs and would like to do more, as it does take a lot of work to take part, but very worth it. 

I hope you had a weekend, and there is more blogs to come. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

 

My son and school/Too many schools for one child

It is a new week and already got a lot of things to do, and got a lot of things done. This week I have to buy a Comic Relief Merchandise for my son to wear at school as it is Comic Relief this Friday and have a video consultation with my son's teachers, and so will be good to find out how my son has been doing. 

I get quite nervous about hearing how my son has been doing at school, as we have heard negative reports before that, like swearing, being disruptive and hitting and biting, and with negative feedback I feel so bad for that. I know the teachers are just doing their job, but I can't feel butterflies in stomach when we find out how he has gotten on. 

This school he is at now is his second and yes, he will now be chosen to go to another school, like we don't have enough to deal with already, with making sure he does his homework, got enough uniform, checking emails from the school. reports and yet he will have to be at a more special needs school.

It is a long wait to find out what school has been picked and really all schools in my opinion should support kids with special needs because they promise that they will do all then can, and if we don't go with the local authority choice we can lose our transportation that will help to take him to school. 

How is a child supposed to get a good education, when the school they are going to keeps changing?

They put it down to funding, and another school can get more funding to support our son. It's like gambling, unsure. We have met the head of the school Henry my son, could be going to, but it isn't definite. 

So we are hanging on a loose thread, and I feel it is like "Like it or lump it" attitude when he is there build his skills for the future and he isn't far from being ready for secondary school. I feel we just have to sit back and except what they can give us, which isn't really helping us being his parents. 

I'd like to hear if you are a parent and having the same issue. You can leave a comment below. 

I do write two parenting blogs on Wordpress.com and the links are below:

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Going to the theatre with a child that has ADHD/Wanting more compassion

It is Sunday again and today we, my mum, nieces and sister-in-law went to the theatre to see the lion King. The first half didn't go quite well as Henry started to play up and be disruptive and had some moany guys in front, and thanks to them for trying to make a situation worse, it would have been nice if they cared and see that I was trying to keep him quiet, but with kids you can't always help it. My son has ADHD and some people don't understand it, but they can quickly become disruptive. 

So in the interval my mum took him outside and we changed seats and all went well in the end. 

The world is full of theatre snobs and they will always be there, but if you are like it, remember they are family shows and kids can play up. 

Not saying they shouldn't be told to be quiet but is compassion and feel that people don't get it, and I wish they would. 

I am not using Henry's ADHD as a excuse but I just wished people would understand it and see that even adults can have ADHD, and that it should be sympathised as noone wants their child be be disruptive but they will and for them people who don't take it seriously I'd like them to spend a day with a child with this issue and then they'll see that as parents we are trying our best, and shouldn't be moaned about. 

I used to play up and it is because kids can find it hard to concentrate when they not interested in something, 

ADHD does exist and it can be tough to control, and as a parent you do your best, and when they play up it means they need to be doing something else. 

For next time I would bring a toy or something he can hold when parts of a show he doesn't want to see, but then people may complain about that, but its distraction. They need many things to do, and my son when at indoors will be play with his tipping point machine, and watch his tablet, then want to play football in the garden and then play magnetic darts. 

With a kid that is so energetic its getting control of it, and so many toys you can play when in a theatre. 

So just feel that people should talk more about ADHD to help other parents who's child is the same, and if you have any advice please share. You can do this by commenting below. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X  

 

Worrying and stress free/easy living.

It is Thursday and usually I feel extra tired but don't feel too bad today and I felt better this morning after a good sleep and didn't wake up until it was about 7am in the morning and laid in until 8:30am, and felt a little anxious as I had an important appointment and worried in case I was late to wait for my son to come home from school, but it was okay. 

I often worry about things to prep myself should it all go wrong, yet the feeling is so uncomfortable and don't want to be worrying anymore. I find it can zap my energy and so I like to feel relaxed more now and stop panicking over the things that could go wrong, to looking forward to the day.

Since being in my 40's I do see a lot of things differently, and I think this is because you have a wider view of the world. I see the world as a whole rather than segregated and that life isn't about taking on a hundred things in the world, if I can leave it for another day, then I do. I live by lists and there has been times when I wasn't. but feel better when it is jotted down and when I begin to tick the items I feel so well and healthy, that it pushes me to complete further tasks I have planned to do. 

Having a good routine in the morning, afternoon and evening is a must, but being flexible too, example when I do the school run in the morning, I get myself showered and clean the night before as I have to be up near 5am and then when I am doing the afternoon part of the school run, I get up about 8:30am and then go through what I need to do for the day and have my shower and get ready on the morning of those days, before I do anything else. I have just allowed it to happen that way. 

Thursdays I do the afternoon school run and start to plan for the weekend, and get any more errands completed, example tidy my room, sort my clothes of what to wear at the weekend as I do like to mix it up and get some writing done in the morning and in the evening. 

Managing life is a must to me and so what is the easiest way of doing things rather than stressing over them and what I can do to save me time. 

It is not a race, it is just living and being happy with life. My son is my life, and so he does come first and we do have a brilliant relationship, that we can argue but laugh also. 

So never fear yourself and if something is stressing you out then change it to get rid of what if I don't get it done or I fear falling down the stairs, so I concentrate better on this, as I have even at adult age fallen down the stairs, and so I do my utmost to keep me safe and the same for my son also.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

The Perfect Coffee and hot cross bun

It is Wednesday and I really needed yesterday popping to Putney and met my mum for lunch, and so each Tuesday I am going to walk and explore as I really enjoy just travelling on the bus and going for a browse of different shops and places not walked before and walking favourite routes too.

I love walking in Surrey and London mainly but would like to go to different places outside of these areas to walk, and hopefully I can take my son to the seaside, at the English Coastal areas to walk for fun too.  

I am watching Sheerluxe video which is brilliant Youtube Magazine and it is their "Behind The Scenes" and I am a regular viewer, and find it so inspiring. 

I filmed a haul video, which I have decided to do Quarterly one each video per Quarter and going to plan more shop with me's. 

I had an anxiety moment this morning due to the things I needed to get done today, and so took step by step to get out of it and get into the right mindset to work through this morning and now feel better for doing so. 

With anxiety it can be crippling but when I begin these feelings I get hold of myself and so I listen to some songs, then had my shower and then got ready for the day, washed up plates I had not cleaned and then got myself together and just taking tiny steps when I have a moment of anxiety to feel okay and get on with my day. 

Creating positive habits like taking a shower each day makes all the difference, because it wakes me up and I will then take a moment to take in what I need to achieve today and just enjoy my first cup of tea of the day, watching Youtube, and with some breakfast helps lay down the surface to get on through the day and look forward to it rather than dreading the day. 

What is the one thing you like to do each morning that lays down the surface for the day for you? You can leave a comment below. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

 

Giving up on McDonalds/Donating to give aid

That's it no more McDonalds as I just had a Medium Legend Chicken burger and did not enjoy at all, and so yes and already bought today chicken korma and chips to have but didn't want to do any cooking, I know and it is only Monday and so going to be my last. 

I can't have too much diary and so McDonalds is off the list and stick to what I have bought and I am going to have next time I don't want to cook, create chicken wrap with salad. 

Monday is a day where I will concentrate on my blogs, and I am still taking on the Email challenge but today been checking my emails from another account so not had a chance to have a clear out, but may do some tonight, before bed time. 

I will get back into sorting out my most full email account tomorrow, but off to Putney tomorrow to visit some charity shops, I have been wanting to check out, and may film this when I do but will let you know. 

If you'd like to check out my main Youtube channel where I film my Days of my life featuring my email challenge and me visiting certain shops, then you can via this link:

Tomorrow it is International Women's Day and being women I feel we do so much and so will be writing a few blogs about the day and will be posting on everyone can build a castle about it, so will be blogging on this site twice this week because of that: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com

Then I will be filming like a haul video, of items purchased from start of the year to now, and so that will go up either Wednesday or Friday. 

I do feel so bad being able to buy a McDonald's when you have people fleeing where they live because of war and so going to do my bit, and give anyway I can. I have taken some time out of today from the news as it really pulls at my heart strings. I just hope all is resolved and stop war kicking off. 

It looks like it won't though and it really made me cherish what I have and stop complaining when there are people who are scared to stay at home. 

Does it have to get worse before it gets better? No! The people who influence war are not to be given the time or day, but I am going to go through my sons clothes and see if we can donate towards the Ukrainians who have had to flee their home.

Let me know if you have given and live in London and where, as I would like to do the same. 

You leave a comment below. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Celebrating International Women's Day

This blog is all about being the women you have always wanted to be, and I think this is relevant as it International Women's World this week on Tuesday and as women we should get in touch with our a gender as we can be the one who takes charge and does so much for other people, and the greatest woman of them all is. Queen Elizabeth The Second and how much she had done in her life. 

She has had to deal with a lot in her life and now can celebrate her Jubilee and long reining Monarch we have had and sometimes its as if she can be seen to others as not human, yet she is and still her life is being judged and I went against her for a bit because of Lady Diana, but she is a normal human being and she has travelled all over the world and is her duty and being a mother, sister and aunty too, and being part of a big family she still having to make important decisions and imagine having to do this and having to handle war and how she connected with us as English born citizens during the Second World War for example and having Ukraine under fire, she's been there and yet she lives on, beyond anyone's expectations. 

As woman we have had to try I think often, a lot more than a man because of it being a "Mans world" a lot of the time and so in some circumstances we have had to work a lot harder, like Karen Brady when she became the first Managing Director in English football and she was instantly put on the judgement stand, why she had to really prove herself in football and married a footballer herself, and then there is women football players and I remember people saying, "How can they be footballers when they are women". I think the women's football being on TV and getting a good attendants at the last world cup made a difference and has now, become recognised that they are on BBC TV channels and ITV and Sky, and in America the Women's football is one of their biggest sports. 

I have seen it where women can be catty, like bitching against other women when all they trying to do is make an impression themselves, and I remember working in a call centre where it did become competitive and many women there became against other women, to the point they'd ignore you or when doing first aid training, there were two women there would allow me to join in as being odd numbered and felt like like at school, the odd one out. 

As a woman we should come together and support each others, and so cheers to all you fellow ladies out there and have that glass of wine, and be proud of yourselves. 

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X 

I may have to give up diary

I write this blog on drinking some strawberry milk in the mornings with some fruit bread, just for a change but looks like it was a bad idea. Sorry it is TMI, but now have a stomach ache. NOT GOOD!

When it comes to food I have gotten to know what my body can take and what it can not. Example I liked Goats Cheese, Pizzas and Fresh Soups, but would upset my tummy and so I have to have to have small amounts as it will repeat on me. 

Dieting has always been a factor in my life, and in educating myself I now listen to my body and that to me being a mum and keep healthy is important. 

I love biscuits and love cakes but even these I moderate it and last week I started to have fruit bread with some strawberries and Blackberries and felt so good eating this, and it can be those small changes that for me, can make a difference on my health, and what is good for me.

That is the thing I believe, dieting is different for people and others will try different ones but some stay clear of them altogether. 

I tried a few Weight Watchers, read about the Atkins, which I would like to read fully and a book about the F Diet. Talking about having more Fibre, but again this is not good for me and so I have come to learn that it is a very personal thing and different for each person. 

I do like my vegetables and love having on my plate and eating them, because of the benefits of them and now I am back on Supplements but diary been a issue, yet I love a latte and milky coffee but had to cut down on these too, and feel sad that I have to restrict myself, but helping me save money when managing my coffee and Tea intake. 

What do you think? And do you do diets? And if yes which ones, and did they work?

You can leave a comment below. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Start of a new week/Current Affairs

A new start to the week and I am in my dressing gown as it still a bit cold, but earlier it was beautiful blue skies and so not that bitterly cold but getting to the point that you don't need to wrap up so much as in the sun it felt alright and good to have good weather after the storm we had. 

So being Monday I enjoyed having a coffee and a muffin whilst writing in Costa's and had a Caramel Latte and had a look around the shops, just to have a browse and a wonder around before starting my day and gonna be out for a while tomorrow and gonna make the most of it, I just hope the weather is just as nice like today and gonna catch up on some TV, as I have been watching a new series called, "Rules of the game" and loving it. It is a bit dark but is good TV and glad to have another series to be into and because Call the Midwife has finished and love watching that show. I thought they were going to kill of some characters that are always in it, but no I got that wrong, and so hope there is more series to come. 

I think with what is going on with the world it is good to have a bit of drama TV to rest the mind and my heart goes out to those escaping from a place that is under war and can't go home because of these dangerous and scary times. 

I would like to do more rather than watching it on TV but not sure how. Could we all come together to stop it and have peace. What happened to peace? Why would anyone what blood to be shed and have humans attacking on another because of ownership and cowardly acts on innocent people. 

So what I am going to do instead is to give to a food bank as where I live some of the big stores nearby do collect for foodbanks so gonna buy some tins of soup and a box of cereal if there is still a collection and donate.

It is hard to know what to do, but just giving to those that have no water, no heating, on their own and running from terrible events, can still make a difference to someone. 

Do we want a war?

Not me, not at all, so I hope that there is peace and that what is going on can stop and we are all living in this world, can't we just live? Can we all be happy? 

Anyway this makes me be thankful of what I have and I am not fleeing from war and have my legs and my heart and a roof over my head. I do keep a gratitude journal and it is a good practice to get into when you feel low, and if you know someone in Ukraine my love and heart goes out to you.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X